Friday 28th May 2010 - Married for 3120 days

BEACH CEREMONY WORDS

 

As you wont be with us on the day, for those of you who are interested, we have a copy of the whole beach ceremony including our vows to each other and the readings the Reverend will be reading to us on the beach!

You'll just have to imagine it being read out! Enjoy!

 

Bon dia/tardi/nochi and bonbini to this beyisimo, unique southern Caribbean setting.  We are gathered here this day in the sight of family, friends, and God to celebrate one of life’s greatest relationships -- marriage.  But it is more than just the simple joining together of two lives.  Marriage is said by some to be the “Sunset of love and the Sunrise of true life, one in touch with the ebb and flow of the seas that surround us”.   Whatever it may be, it is a commitment of belief and faith not to be entered into lightly, but with certainty, mutual respect, a sense of reverence, and perpetuity.

Today we are here to wed together (Leanne and Ryan), so let us search our hearts for the wisdom of God’s covenant, which from ancient times been expressed by those ideas that come from the heart.  Ideas like love, loyalty, trust, fidelity, and forgiveness.  As to love, I would like you both to take a few seconds to contemplate the words written by the great transcendentalist Thoreau, who wrote: “Love is . . . the wind, the tide, the waves, the sunshine . . . Its power is incalculable. . . It never ceases . . . It never slackens.  Love can make a paradise within, which will dispense with a paradise without, because in love we impart each to each . . . in subtlest immaterial form, or thought, or atmosphere . . . The best of ourselves.

Leanne & Ryan, as you should know by now, only you can truly marry yourselves. By mutual commitment to love each other, to labor with all your hearts towards creating an atmosphere of  care, consideration, and respect, and by a willingness to face together the fears and uncertainty that underlie human life, you two can make your wedded life come alive more surely than any documents you will ever put your signatures upon. Today you commit yourselves to honor and protect one another above your separate selves, and to valuing your union beyond your own interests.  In doing so, you will find a wealth of love and peace not otherwise attainable.  Learn to respect each others outlooks and accept each others strengths and weaknesses, for this will help cement the foundation for both a strong and lasting marriage.  Share your thoughts, experiences, and dreams with one another.  Cherish the intimacy and understanding that comes with the passage of time.  Believe that marriage is a partnership between equal individuals, with common hopes, dreams, and goals.  Foster these and they will give your life special meaning and fulfillment.

I also ask you to remember this advice:  Always let your love be stronger than your anger, and learn the wisdom of compromise for it is always better to bend than to break. Believe the best of your beloved rather than the worst, and always confide in your partner and ask or help when you need it, remembering that friendship is the true basis for any lasing relationship. 

At no time take the other or granted.  Never grow too old to hold hands in public.  Never go to bed angry.  And always remember to say “I love you” at least once each day.  Lastly I will paraphrase some words written by Kahlil Gibran in regard to giving each other room to grow in your relationship.  He wrote: “. . . Let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of heaven dance between you . . . Love one another, but make not a bond of love,  rather let your love be like a moving sea between the shores of your souls . . . And stand together, but not too near, for the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the Divi and Palm grow not in each others shadow”.       

A vast unknown future stretches out before you two and that future, by divine design, is hidden from your eyes.  But it is a great tribute to each other that you are willing to face those uncertainties together.  So may the pure simple love with which you join your hearts and hands today never fail, but grow deeper and surer with every year that you spend together.

And I now ask that you two turn to face each other and hold each other’s hands.

 

 

BLESSED UNION OF SOULS

Within this blessed union of souls where two hearts intertwine to become one, there lays a promise, perfectly born, divinely created and intimately shared. It is a place where the hope and majesty of beginnings reside, where all things are made possible by the astounding love shared by two spirits.  As you hold each other’s hands in this promise, and eagerly look to the future in each other’s eyes, may your unconditional love and devotion take you two to places to which you have only dreamed.  Where you will dwell for a lifetime of happiness, sheltered in the warmth of each others arms.

 

The hands which you offer to each other are an extension of yourselves.  Just as is the warmth and love you express here today to each other.  Cherish the touch for you are truly touching another life. Be sensitive to its pulse and try to understand and respect its flow and rhythm just as you do your own.

 

Nothing in life is easier than saying words and nothing is harder than living them day after day, so what you promise here today must be renewed and honored again tomorrow, and for all the tomorrows after that.

 

 So I shall now ask each of you a series of questions to which you shall respond “I will”.

 

VOWS

Ryan, Will you take Leanne, whose hands you hold, choosing her alone to be your wedded wife?  Will you live with her in a state of true matrimony?  Will you love and comfort her through both the good times and the bad, in sickness and in health, honor her at all times and cherish her with faith and devotion?

Leanne, Will you take Ryan, whose hands you hold, choosing him alone to be your wedded husband?  Will you live with him in a state of true matrimony?  Will you love him and comfort him through both the good times and the bad, in sickness and in health, honor him at all times and cherish him with faith and devotion?

Ryan, I now invite you to say a few words to Leanne

THE EXCHANGE OF RINGS

It is now time for the exchange of rings.  Will you both now give and receive rings?  May I please have the rings?

 

A circle is the symbol of the Sun, of the Earth, and of the Universe.  It is a symbol of the wholeness of perfection and of harmony.  The rings you both give and receive today are symbols of the unbroken circle of love into which you enter.

For thousands of years, lovers have exchanged rings as a token of their vows.  These simple bands are of no great value in them, but are made precious by our wearing of them.  Let these rings be a sign that love has substance as well as soul.  A Past, a Present . . . and a Future.  Let these rings be symbols of the vows exchanged between you both here today.

  They mark the beginning of a journey together, a life voyage filled with wonder, surprises, laughter, tears, celebration, grief and joy. 

May these rings reflect the warmth of the lives that flow through them today.   Two lives are about to be joined in one unbroken circle.  Wherever they go may they always return to one another?  May they both grow in understanding and compassion.  And may the home they establish be a place of peace and comfort to all who dwell within.

Ryan, please take this ring an place it upon Leanne  finger, then repeat after me: Leanne, this ring symbolizes our love and union.  For Today . . . Tomorrow . . . And for all the days to come.  Just as a circle has no end, My love for you is never ending, my commitment to you will never fail, with this ring . . .I Thee Wed.

Leanne, please take this ring and place it upon Ryans finger, then repeat after me: Ryan, this ring symbolizes our love and union.  For Today . . . Tomorrow . . . And for all the days to come.  Just as a circle has no end, my love for you is never ending, my commitment to you will never fail, with this ring . . . I Thee Wed.

Let these rings serve not as locks binding you two together, but as keys unlocking the secrets of your hearts for each other to know and bringing you both closer together forever.

As you have both consented to be bound together in marriage, and have made special promises symbolized here today by the joining of hands, taking of vows, and giving and receiving of rings.  By the authority vested in me, I now pronounce you husband and wife.  Congratulations Leanne and Ryan, you may now kiss your beautiful bride.